On the 6th of December, Saint Nicholas comes to visit, and not long after that, Santa Claus shows up again. And maybe the tooth fairy or the Easter bunny will also visit your home. These magical figures bring your children wonder and joy, but at the same time raise questions for parents. How long should I go along with it? How do I tell the truth? Here are six tips for dealing with these traditions.
1. Play along
For young children, the line between fantasy and reality is still very flexible. Fictional characters help them to dream, stimulate their imagination and learn about emotions such as excitement, happiness and disappointment. These are all valuable experiences. So you don't need to feel guilty about playing along.
2. Create your own family rituals
Every family deals with fictional characters differently. Do you put your shoe out for Saint Nicholas? And does that include a carrot or a sugar cube? Do you leave a note for the tooth fairy? Or do you hang up a sock for Santa Claus? Choose rituals that suit your family. That makes the experience more meaningful.
3. Follow your child's pace
Some children want to believe everything blindly, while others are quick to ask critical questions. Go along with their perception without overwhelming them with complicated explanations. Feel free to ask a counter-question, such as “What do you think?”. This allows them to take steps towards discovering the truth themselves.
Does your child explicitly ask whether Saint Nicholas & co really exist? Then they may be ready to hear the truth. But don't force the conversation. Sometimes children prefer to enjoy the magic for a while longer, even if they suspect something.
4. Be understanding when they 'discover'
Sooner or later, your child will realise how things really are. It is not uncommon for your child to surprise you with this at an unexpected moment. Respond with understanding: it is an important step in their development. Explain, for example, that the story is part of a tradition that parents like to keep alive to make their children happy. That way, the magic will not immediately lose its lustre.
5. Make a pact of secrecy
Are there any younger siblings who still believe? Make a pact with your child who can't be fooled anymore. Explain that they now have to keep this grown-up secret so as not to spoil the fun for the others. This gives your child a new responsibility, which eases their sadness and helps them feel proud and involved in the tradition.
6. Discuss the underlying message
Saint Nicholas is about generosity, Santa Claus is about spending time together, and the tooth fairy is about growing up and celebrating milestones. When you emphasise these values, children understand that it's not just about the presents, but also about love, warmth and being together.
Magical figures such as Santa Claus and the tooth fairy give children the opportunity to dream, feel secure in traditions and learn important values. By listening to your children, following their own pace and creating your own rituals, you can turn these moments into unforgettable experiences full of wonder and safety. Enjoy them while you can.
Do you already have any idea what Saint Nicholas and Santa Claus will bring this year?
